“I don't know.  This whole thing with Keith, I'm just real unsure at the moment.  I'm definitely not the type that requires 24 hour maintenance from another guy.   It's obviously, not possible with work and a family to take care of.  But, I do like to hear from someone on at least a daily basis, if not more. Like a morning catchup, one or two texts through the day, and definitely a good night.  Then, I think I'd be OK with a meeting every other day or so.  Its what ruined the relationship with Ross.  He wasn't available anymore and I wasn't going to stand for it. Does Keith have what it takes? The results are still out, but its not looking good. Yesterday morning, I got a text from the night before, at like 3am.  He was just back from a night out drinking with friends, and was looking forward to his big day in the city for the new job.  3am? And an important day ahead? Ugh... I texted him back and wished him good luck, and to be in touch, I'd love to hear how it went.  Then? Nothing...nada..zilch. I mean is this the way to inspire me?  Is this the courtship I'm looking for?  Finally, yesterday afternoon I got a text that his day went great and he couldn't wait to tell me all about it.  Later in the day, I spoke to him and he filled me in.  But, he's off again for drinks with friends. I'm concerned because of the lack of availability that Keith has for me already.  It could only get worse I think.  Plus, he's 23, but an immature 23.  Ross was only 19 when we met, but he was a mature 19, as odd as it may sound.  Keith is partying, drinking, and then working and then the cycle begins again.  Is that what I want?  I brought it up to him ..but he says that opposites attract. In addition, I'm wondering if our "talk" on Monday night resulted in my obligation to be monogamous with him - as in me not allowed to see any other guys. While a monogamous relationship with another guy is what want, I don't think I want it at the price of his unavailability and his drinking ways. If this continues, I think I'd like to continue to see if there is someone more compatible for me out there. Its hard though -  in more than one way.  He's totally cute...hot, has an amazing body, seems genuine and nice and I'd like to be the one he learns from sexually.  But, are his amazing looks tainting my true wants and desires?”